Procrastination – Is it a Disease or Just Bad Habit?

What is procrastination?

Procrastination, or habitual hesitation is known to people from the ancient times. Most people procrastinate from time to time, and most of the time it’s not harmful. Putting off doing this or that for a few minutes or a couple of days is not generally harmful.

However, procrastination can also create a huge problems for many people who keep meaning to start something and never do it. A considerable number of people have this ” I will start doing this tomorrow” problem, they have chronic procrastination that seriously affect their lives.

I, the writer have been a victim of procrastination several times. But the one time I will remember for ever was when I missed sitting for a very important examination. I was on working assignment in Australia with Shell Australia, at Clyde Refinery.
I applied to the Australian Welding Institute (AWI), to sit for the AWI Welding Inspector Examination, my request was approved and I was to undertake the examination after a few days.
But unfortunately procrastination robbed me of this big chance in my career. Just by putting off opening the letter box made me to miss the date of the examination.

It is therefore obvious that procrastination is not just hateful, it is downright harmful.

According to the research carried out by the experts, people who procrastinate have higher levels of stress and lower well being.
In the real world delay is associated with missed opportunities and, for example missed medical visits. Also think of people who cost themselves hundreds of dollars by rushing to prepare income taxes documents when the deadline given is just expiring.

Experts say that there is far more to procrastination than simply putting something off until tomorrow. True procrastination is a complicated failure of self regulation, defined as the voluntary delay of some important task that we intend to despite knowing that we shall suffer as a result.

Has it anything to do with time management. Having mentioned the bad side of procrastination, can it also be a helpful habit? Procrastinators often say it doesn’t matter when a task gets done, so long as it is eventually finished.

If progress on a task can take many forms, procrastination is the absence of progress – it conflates proactive behavior like pondering, prioritizing, with the detrimental self defeating habit of genuine procrastination.

How can we overcome this habit

Because it is all about self deception, your motto should be “I will do it” , avoid “I will do it later”. Use your implementation intention take the form  “if, then” – if the phone rings, I will answer it. Use your implementation intention to keep yourself focused. If I have finished this part of the article, then I am going to immediately turn my attention to reading the next part.

Controlling Our Emotions Can Help Change Others

Mother and Child watching each other
Mother and Child watching each other (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

For a couple of years I observed some negative changes to my son’s behaviour. The first thing I noticed is that the good relationship a parent enjoys with his son was not there any more. After I noticed this, and of course some other negative behavioral changes, I decided to act as quickly as possible save the situation.

For a couple of years l started to act believing that I could transform my 20 year son into someone else he was before. I encouraged him, cheered him and did everything in my power to change him into what I viewed as his full potential. He then slowly and constantly started asking for my help. But even though, the truth was he never put his full heart into it.

I wanted him to change much more than he did, and I was so blind to my mission that I never accepted him for who he was. This nearly made me part with my only son. But luckily, I was able to control my emotions and never gave up my couching. I avoided using any kind of force when dealing with him. This appeared to have succeeded and my advice is that, being patient is the key word to success in this kind of situation.

We want to believe that we are a positive force for change, both in our lives and in those around us. We see role models accomplishing this all the time. Great teachers can mold young minds. Philanthropists can provide opportunities to those who don’t have. But just because you want others to change, it doesn’t mean you control them. In the end, it is upon each individual to live his own life.

The whole point here is to correct wrong doing. While we cannot control others, there are things within our control that we may apply that may influence others to change for the better.

Controlling our emotions.

You are always in control of how to react in a given situation. Thìs in turn gives the other person a chance to react to your reaction. How you react helps define your relationship. If the relationship is strong, can help model behaviour. And this is how parenting works. Every body, even young children have a will of their own and cannot be forced to do anything, but how you treat them can change them. If you remain calm in the midst of temper tantrum, you have better odds of passing that ability to control emotions onto your offspring.

Blend of Culture and Democracy

English: Boda-boda. Uganda, somewhere on A109 ...
English: Boda-boda. Uganda, somewhere on A109 Road, between Jinja and Malaba Русский: Бода-бода. Уганда, на трассе А109, между Джинджей и Малабой. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

County Governments in Kenya

The country of Kenya has been divided into 47 administrative areas called Counties, each with its County Assembly, under the central government.

Kisumu County, which is one of the 47 counties, situated on the western part of Kenya has introduced a controversial bill in its County Assembly that seeks to ban women from sitting on motorcycles with their legs apart, and facing the driver/ rider. The bill recommends that women passengers sit facing sideways – seen as a more respectful posture.

Motorcycle as a means of transport is a booming business in this part of the world and has created employment to thousands of youths who would otherwise be jobless.

The local name adapted for the motorcycle “taxis” is “boda-boda”. It is a name in Kiswahili language which was borrowed from an English word “border”. This word was adapted apparently because this mode of transportation was first used to ferry passengers between border towns or villages of the neighboring countries of Tanzania and Uganda.

Having said that, and even before the bill was actually introduced in the County Assembly, it has received a mixed reaction from the citizens. Some supporting it while others opposing it saying that the bill will violate the democratic rights of women.

Women association supports

One massive support to the bill came from the giant Kenya women Association ( known as Maendeleo ya Wanawake), who said that the bill, if passed will make women sit decently on the motorcycle taxis. They called for its quick enforcement into law, and further suggested that the law be extended country wide.

The women association said that women wearing short skirts expose their bodies indecently, which is frowned upon in the tradition of people living in that part of the country. Some of these women passengers suggestively hold the drivers from behind, leaving no room for imagination.

Culture vs democracy.

The push for the introduction of the controversial bill has been triggered by traditional or cultural reasons. It is known that the Luo culture ( Luo is a tribe found in the Kisumu county) frown upon women who expose their bodies indiscreetly in front of men.

Introduction of the bill in the County Assembly is an indication  that certain types of rules, customs or traditions may become law, or regulatory legislation may be introduced to formalize or enforce the convention. In a social context, a convention may retain the character of “unwritten law” or custom.

Here is a clear example of the blend of tradition and democracy. are we going to see more of this happening in future?

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Rooster Vs Time Clock

Rooster crowing during daylight hours
Rooster crowing during daylight hours (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Rooster the sacred bird

Rooster has plenty of reasons to be cocky! From dream meanings to cultural emblems.

Since antiquity the rooster has been, and still is considered a sacred animal in some cultures. There are religious significance and aspects of the rooster and cock fighting which are exampled by the religious belief.

Rooster is a symbol of importance .  For example the fighting cockerel on a ball is a symbol for TOTTENHAM HOTSPURS football club. The cockerel wear a pair of spurs which is a reference to the clubs nickname.

Additionally, the cockerel is the emblem of a Turkish sports club Denizlispot.

Rooster fight entertainment is a popular sport in many parts of the world.

The ultimate time teller

Above all, for centuries the cocks have been known, and have been branded the village’s unofficial and uncelebrated wake-up masters. They have solely been the only domesticated birds that virtually wake up every other living creatures in the villages – the villagers of course being the most beneficiaries – time to go and till your land or time  to go to work! Thanks to the wake-up masters!

Of course, the only ones who can be excused and allowed to remain curled up in bed would be the most elderly and the sick.

(Cock-a-doodle-doo) – will start crowing at about four months old.

Usually the first rooster will crow at around 3.00 am, and soon after the others around the village take the cue and the crowing reaches crescendo around 5.00 am.

Alarm Clocks

Alarm clocks, the invention of man only came in as an alternative means of waking up machine. However, nothing beats  roosters in waking up the village!

The man made alarm clocks are powered by batteries. Most people cannot afford such luxuries – and being man made, they are bound to break down sometimes. Not forgetting that one might forget to set the timer at times.

But the roosters give a guarantee that they will crow at crack of dawn.

That is why no matter what the circumstances are, the villagers will always spare at least one cockerel from sale or knife.

 

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The Giant Tusks – Historical Land Mark in Mombasa

Tusks in Mombasa
Tusks in Mombasa (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Mombasa City

Is the name Mombasa new to you? If the answer is yes, then here is a short description of the place:

Mombasa is a major coastal city  in Kenya – famous in the tourism circle. It is the second important city in Kenya after Nairobi. Mombasais also the largest modern port in East Africa.

But most importantly, the name Mombasa features very prominently in the world history – it is this coastal city  that was used as the headquarters when the Portuguese and the Arabs occupied and ruled  these parts of East Africa in the 16 – 18th century.

The monument tusks

Having described this famous city  Mombasa, when one is visiting, and happen to drive or walk along the main street to the port of Mombasa, called Moi Avenue, (used to be know as Kilindini Road), one will not miss to see the extra ordinary  ‘ elephant tusks’ (man made of course). The two pairs of the crossed tusks stand astride the dual carriage way Moi Avenue.

These structures are the ceremonial arcs built in 1953 to commemorate the coronation of Queen Elizabeth ll . It is a famous land mark in this city.

The erection o this monument must have some connection with the death of the Queen’s father in 1952. The Queen happened to be on a visit to Kenya, (not in Mombasa), when she received the news about her father’s death

Condition of the tusks

What prompted me to write this article is the poor state of condition these metal structures were in when I recently walked along the Mombasa Moi avenue.

The metal structures showed corrosion (rusting) occurring on the lower sides. Large indentations can also be seen on these lower parts apparently  caused by vehicle accidents. The locks to the manway covers on the bottom sides are missing making the inside accessible  the street children and other irresponsible citizens who throw debris in these parts. These dirt cause rusting of the metals when dump.

Why I wrote this article

I wrote this article mainly to create awareness.

I believe that the article will raise concern among those who care and value preservation of history for the benefit of the future generations.

It is also my intention to remind the local authority charged with the maintenance of such important monuments to be more vigilant.

I must also remember to thank the British and American navy personnel who from time to time in the past spent their efforts and time repairing this monument whenever their war ships   called at the port of Mombasa.

Lastly, but not least I feel privileged having mentioned in my blog an event connected with the name of her majesty The Queen on England.

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Nubians Kibra Life – Past and Present

 

In the 19th century, the British established the British East Africa territory which comprised the land which sits astride the equator, which is today’s Kenya.

English: A Ten Cent and One Cent British East ...
English: A Ten Cent and One Cent British East Africa piece from 1952(10) and 1924 (1). (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

To be able to settle in these new found territories, the British brought with them soldiers from other parts of the world, which included soldiers from the Sudan. This was done to ensure their security. And these soldiers later fought alongside the British army in the first
se soldiers were a formidable force and and second world wars.
These Sudanese soldiers were the spine of the early British army in this part of the world.
The Sudanese soldiers mentioned above were the Nubians settled in a military reserve in Kibra, which is located on the outskirts of the city of Nairobi, after conscription from the British army.
The Kibra land was a gift to the Sudanese soldiers in recognition to their distinguished service.

What kind of life did the Nubians live?

The first Nubians who settled in Kibra lived a communal life similar to the medieval village life. A village life consisting of a population comprised mostly of farmers, houses, barns, sheds and animal pens, clustered around. This was surrounded by ploughed fields and pastures.
This village was a home for the Nubians. Most were born, toiled, married, had children and died within the village. Most rarely venturing beyond its boundaries.
The Nubians had their own language, dress code, cuisine, ceremonies, ( birth, circumcision, wedding, etc ), dances, arts and artifacts.
The typical Nubian house architecture featured four bedrooms, a visitor room, a large sitting room, with large windows overlooking flower/tree gardens on the outside. The kitchen was located on one side at the back, while the bathrooms and pit latrines were on the other.
The houses were built with poles and wooden planks and frames bought from forest owners around Kibra.
The roofs of the houses were made from flattened oil tins and oil drums, (typically 20 lt kerosene containers were used in those days).
The walls of these houses were made of mud, and cow dung collected from the livestock keepers around. The wall finishing was so smooth that it had the appearance of cement plaster. These walls were often patterned with flower paintings that made them very attractive. Some of those houses, over 90 years old, are still standing there today.
Vegetable gardens and farms for other crops and livestock were developed further away from the main house.

Recreational facilities.

Kibra had enough recreational facilities, particularly playing grounds for children. These grounds were also used for wedding ceremonies and other communal activities. For indoor activities a central hall was built in the centre of the village, which was also used as a cinema.

Post independence life.

Life in Kibra changed gradually after Kenya attained independence in 1963 from outside influences. New comers from outside Kibra for economic and political reasons. By 1980s and 1990s, the number of outsiders grew so big. The Nubians then became a small minority in the ratio 1 to 12.

Changes in sociocultural environment.

The big inflow of outsiders in Kibra had a bad effect. It is known that social and cultural influences cause changes in attitudes, beliefs, norms, customs and lifestyle. Inability of the Nubians in Kibra to foresee changes in these areas and react timely was devastating.

Challenge facing the Nubians.

The biggest challenge now facing the Nubians of Kibra is whether the government of Kenya will honor the promise of giving the Kibra land ownership documentation.


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Nubian Culture

Culture and society

This blog is about the culture of Nubian community who live in East Africa, particularly in Kenya. The writer has sensed the danger of dwindling in the values or activity of the Nubian culture in this area.

What is culture?

Culture can be described as the way of life of a particular society or a group of people including pattern of thought, belief, behavior, customs, traditions, rituals, dress and language, as well as art, music and literature.
Culture is a powerful human tool for survival, but is a fragile phenomenon. It is constantly changing and is easily lost because it is not written.
Nubians need to keep their traditions and culture alive so that they can continue to pass it on from one generation to another.
To revive the Nubian culture and make it vibrant, the starting point would probably be to borrow from the work of Craig Constantine and continue to build up from there.
The art exhibition is one way of viewing their identity and its contribution to the entire Nubian heritage over the course of history.
Nubians can start a local gallery and display paintings and photography on the walls of the exhibition gallery.
. Paintings and photographs of their traditional houses.
. Colorful traditional Nubian clothing.
. Photographs of, and display of traditional hand woven bag, baskets, mats and other accessories.
. Stylish braiding of women hair.
. Nubian musical instruments, etc.

 

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