Is It Really My Inner Voice or My Imaginations?

Inner voice

Call it inner wisdom, intuition, insight or guidance – whatever term you use, this is the little voice inside you that represents the real you. It is the you after stripping away society’s standards and  expectations – and everyone else’s.

Listening to your inner wisdom helps you connect with others on a deeper level. It allows you to be most genuine, most real and most available for true connection. And it is simply almost satisfying.

Have you ever had similar things happen that cause you to pause? Or have you  ever seen things that play out in your life over and over again, but you are not quite sure what the lesson is, or how to change the outcome from bad one to good one? You then ask yourself are these things real or Imaginations?

Real inner voice or superstitious. 

But how can one tell, how can you tell the difference between a thought that is erroneous or merely superstitious, and one that is truely comming from the inner voice, the voice that knows the self, the voice that one can trust?

One day while walking aimlessly in the streets, I met a friend whom I had not seen for some years. During our conversation, I asked him what he was doing,  and he told me that he worked as a travel agent. Do you like it? I asked him -“I hate it”, he said.

“Then why don’t you try something else? ” I asked. “Yes, I would like to become a journalist, I have wanted for a long time”.

At this point I stopped talking and gave him a long look – then I gave him some encouragement by saying,  ” You look likeyou’d make a great journalist”, I said. He became very exited about that remark and said to me, “really? Do you think so? My other friends also said that to me. I just had an interview and I am waiting for the results – I can’t wait to see what happens “

With that I said, “don’t worry, if it is what you really want, don’t give up until you get it .”

Clearly this young man inner voice is urging him to go in a different direction, to move from being a travel agent to become a journalist. Here you can see that he was definitely not a victim of his imagination or hearing a false message. Here is why : 1) He was getting the message from a variety of sources  ( notice that when I said, “You look like you’d make a great journalist ,” he replied, “my friends also said that.”) : 2) He tried to ignore it, and admittedly he was miserable. 3) When he tried to move in the direction that his inner voice was urging him to go, he felt not only more comfortable but energised, (he had taken an interview,  and enthusiastically said, ” I can’t wait to see what happens “).

The bottom line is, when your inner voice is speaking to you, you can find out if it is true inner voice by testing it out – by trial and error. As human beings, we are complex and have many talents, and can be good at more than one thing in life, but we may feel happier and more fulfilled doing certain things. I believe that experimenting is in fact the only real way to end up where you truely belong. You are a multifaceted person, and if it is time to move on, start making forays in other directions. There will probably be more than one confirmation to let you know if you are on the right track.


Goal Setting For Self Improvement

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English: 85. Functions and Use Scenarios Mapping to Requirements and Goals (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Set those goals and start moving

Have you one day sat in a quiet corner of your garden, watching birds and suddenly start wondering why some  people have the ability to accomplish a lot? Such people know where they are headed and exude an enviable confidence.

The answer to this question is that effective goal setting is one of their keys to success. You may be working very hard at what you do, but without setting your goals you will find that your hard work does not yield any meaningful results. You will reach a point where you will find yourself at crossroads and asking yourself which road to take. You can take a moment here and ask yourself where you really want to go. If your inner self tells you “I don’t care much where I want to go”, then as a result you will wonder aimlessly in your journey.

Here, in essence you travel the road of life without a specific direction, or “goal”. Very few people make goal setting, and even fewer appreciate or know what goal setting is all about. And only a few of those know make goal setting a priority.

Studies have shown that most people either don’t know what they want from life, or if they do, have no plans for realising their dreams. That’s why only a small percentage of  people have specific well defined goals. And people who most frequently reach their goals are those who write them down and develop plans to reach them.

what are goals?

Goals are the changes we make in our thinking about who we are and who we can be. The first step in creating your desired future begins with choosing to design your life with clearly defined written goals

Why set goals?

Take a few moments to think why writing down your goals make such a significant difference in your your ultimate performance. Why do you think that writing down your goals is important? If your response to this query included the idea that goal achievers  record their goals so that they can read them, absorb them and plan for them, then you are on the right track. People who achieve their goals take an active role in achieving them. Briefly when you set your goals, you:

  1. Build your confidence
  2. Create momentum in your life
  3. You create a feeling of control in yourlife

Guide lines for writing effective goals

To write down effective goals, you must follow some guidelines which will make you establish your goals in a way that will nearly guarantee a reward for your efforts. Here are some guidelines which you can follow:

  • Effective written goals – Pick a pen and write down those things you most want to achieve. Once these are committed on paper it becomes a firm commitment. It means that your dream is given a sense of reality. This is the first step towards achieving your goals.
  • Effective goals are written in specific measurable terms – Writing your goals in a specific term will have expressed it in a measurable way. You  can then be able to evaluate your progress and know when you have achieved your goal. Example of measurable goals are:
  • By March, next year I will have completed renovation of my office and ready for occupation.
  • This week I will write 3 completed articles for my blog and publish them
  • I will hire a guest writer to help me write the articles.
  • Effective goals can be visualised – Picture yourself reaching your goal, picture your result. Your desired to attain your goals comes from your energy, usually the more you desire something the harder you will work to achieve it
  • Effective goals are achievable – Goals need to challenge your skills and abilities, without discouraging your effort and performance. Do not aim very high initially when you first set your goals. Instead establish the less stringent quality goals at first so that you can experience success in reaching those more realistic goals. As your competency, success and confidence grow,  you may then decide to go for the higher goals.
  • Effective goals have realistic deadlines – Your goals need a schedule. Setting a realistic time frame to take appropriate actions for your goals. Schedule enough time to reach the goal, but not excessive time to make you lose interest in what you are doing.
  • Effective goals are manageable – Don’t make your goal overwhelming because of its size. Divide large goals into smaller manageable components so that it is easier and manageable.
  • Effective goals are analysed for their potential problems – As you establish a goal, consider the steps you might take to accomplish it. Analyse the goal for potential problems that might keep you from reaching it. If a goal is initially considered in terms of what could go wrong,  then you can take action to resolve or minimise problems before they occur. Critical thinking will help you cover all the loopholes and stay on the path towards achieving your goal.

Analyse your goals for potential problems. Think of what could go  wrong with the goal. Think what could go wrong with the goal of “completing a project in time “

  • Are all the materials needed to complete the project procured?
  • Is there effective communication between the members of the team?