Procrastination – Is it a Disease or Just Bad Habit?

What is procrastination?

Procrastination, or habitual hesitation is known to people from the ancient times. Most people procrastinate from time to time, and most of the time it’s not harmful. Putting off doing this or that for a few minutes or a couple of days is not generally harmful.

However, procrastination can also create a huge problems for many people who keep meaning to start something and never do it. A considerable number of people have this ” I will start doing this tomorrow” problem, they have chronic procrastination that seriously affect their lives.

I, the writer have been a victim of procrastination several times. But the one time I will remember for ever was when I missed sitting for a very important examination. I was on working assignment in Australia with Shell Australia, at Clyde Refinery.
I applied to the Australian Welding Institute (AWI), to sit for the AWI Welding Inspector Examination, my request was approved and I was to undertake the examination after a few days.
But unfortunately procrastination robbed me of this big chance in my career. Just by putting off opening the letter box made me to miss the date of the examination.

It is therefore obvious that procrastination is not just hateful, it is downright harmful.

According to the research carried out by the experts, people who procrastinate have higher levels of stress and lower well being.
In the real world delay is associated with missed opportunities and, for example missed medical visits. Also think of people who cost themselves hundreds of dollars by rushing to prepare income taxes documents when the deadline given is just expiring.

Experts say that there is far more to procrastination than simply putting something off until tomorrow. True procrastination is a complicated failure of self regulation, defined as the voluntary delay of some important task that we intend to despite knowing that we shall suffer as a result.

Has it anything to do with time management. Having mentioned the bad side of procrastination, can it also be a helpful habit? Procrastinators often say it doesn’t matter when a task gets done, so long as it is eventually finished.

If progress on a task can take many forms, procrastination is the absence of progress – it conflates proactive behavior like pondering, prioritizing, with the detrimental self defeating habit of genuine procrastination.

How can we overcome this habit

Because it is all about self deception, your motto should be “I will do it” , avoid “I will do it later”. Use your implementation intention take the form  “if, then” – if the phone rings, I will answer it. Use your implementation intention to keep yourself focused. If I have finished this part of the article, then I am going to immediately turn my attention to reading the next part.

Creating Your Personal Brand

Anglo-Arabian breed brand
Anglo-Arabian breed brand (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Branding yourself

Branding is not just for corporations. It can also apply to an individual item or person. Branding yourself makes sure you are noticed, and visibility is the goal. It will come out as a showcase of your talent to the world.

Social media is powering the world in ways many have never imagined. Using tools like Twitter, Facebook or Google +, it is easy to develop an interprenuer of yourself.

Your personal brand is how you use your appearance, expertise and the Internet (or social network) to create a unique impression. The moment you start thinking about how you can stand out from the others you are branding yourself. The real life connections we can build by networking with others hold some potential.

Since careers work differ entry nowadays, it matters a lot. No one belongs to an organisation for life anymore. Most importantly you are not defined by your job title or description
Instead your career is seen as a series of projects that show your skill and challenges. Market these well and you will never be out of work. You will be sure of getting paid for something you are passionate about.

So developing personal brand has given chance to creative and otherwise titleless individual. It means understanding who you are, what you want to achieve in life and creating a niche for yourself.

Your personal brand includes your clothing, you style,the way you handle things and that makes you different from the rest. What your key values are, what energises you and what you are passionate about.

One most important point is that you must be authentic. This is a must because all strong brands are based in what is real and genuine. If you pretend you will be found out.

Visibility is the goal of personal branding. If your brand is working you will be famous and be eaten recognised and noticed.

One tip is that search engine does not find you from your name. So you have to develop your CV, your contact information, and your about page.

Make sure the picture you present has no rude gesture. Posting to Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn or your blog or website will allow people to develop a stronger connection with you and help you create a ranking in search engine. Visibility of your brand is very important.

Think of your brand as a gateway to your business or a new job.

Controlling Our Emotions Can Help Change Others

Mother and Child watching each other
Mother and Child watching each other (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

For a couple of years I observed some negative changes to my son’s behaviour. The first thing I noticed is that the good relationship a parent enjoys with his son was not there any more. After I noticed this, and of course some other negative behavioral changes, I decided to act as quickly as possible save the situation.

For a couple of years l started to act believing that I could transform my 20 year son into someone else he was before. I encouraged him, cheered him and did everything in my power to change him into what I viewed as his full potential. He then slowly and constantly started asking for my help. But even though, the truth was he never put his full heart into it.

I wanted him to change much more than he did, and I was so blind to my mission that I never accepted him for who he was. This nearly made me part with my only son. But luckily, I was able to control my emotions and never gave up my couching. I avoided using any kind of force when dealing with him. This appeared to have succeeded and my advice is that, being patient is the key word to success in this kind of situation.

We want to believe that we are a positive force for change, both in our lives and in those around us. We see role models accomplishing this all the time. Great teachers can mold young minds. Philanthropists can provide opportunities to those who don’t have. But just because you want others to change, it doesn’t mean you control them. In the end, it is upon each individual to live his own life.

The whole point here is to correct wrong doing. While we cannot control others, there are things within our control that we may apply that may influence others to change for the better.

Controlling our emotions.

You are always in control of how to react in a given situation. Thìs in turn gives the other person a chance to react to your reaction. How you react helps define your relationship. If the relationship is strong, can help model behaviour. And this is how parenting works. Every body, even young children have a will of their own and cannot be forced to do anything, but how you treat them can change them. If you remain calm in the midst of temper tantrum, you have better odds of passing that ability to control emotions onto your offspring.

Is it Punishment or Child Abuse?

Punishing children at homes and schools

In the resent past we have seen in the media several incidents of child beatings by parents or school teachers showing ugly wounds or scars inflicted. The reason is “discipline”.

Beating or spanking is an age old disciplinary technique, so turning the tide against it may be difficult. Some people even argue that it’s a necessary tool in a parent’s arsenal of options.

In my opinion, canning a child to the extent of inflicting wound is a child abuse dressed up as acceptable punishment.

Whether majority of Kenyans approve of corporal punishment or not, Kenyans have distinct history with the subject. Beating children depressingly being familiar habit in schools and homes.

Children are beaten to keep them from misbehaving as we say. If beating children began paradoxically as a violent preventative of even greater violence then it was enthusiastically embraced in our culture.

We have heard of all sorts of excuses for beatings. Children have borne physical and psychological scars of beatings. We seem to have confused the connection of children behavior with corporal punishment.

The point of discipline is to transmit values to children. The purpose of punishment is to coerce compliance and secure control, and failing that, to inflict pain as a form of revenge.

Amusement make us lough and keep us from crying and disappointment. But no humour can mask the suffering that our children endure when they are beaten, feeling of sadness and worthlessness, difficulties sleeping, bouts of anxiety, outburst of aggression, diminished concentration, dislike of authority, and negative high risk behavior.

Equally tragic is that those who suffered beatings are likely to become beaters too.

We may seem to think that beating the child to that extent will stop the child getting in trouble with the law or mob justice for that matter. But physical and psychological damage done will probably remain forever. What will hurt less is the loving correction of the children misbehavior so that they grow up healthy to adulthood with no bitterness, and speak against violence wherever they find it.